handfuls of marshmallows and chocolate.



She crawled in my lap,

tears in her eyes.

sobbing because she only had a large hunk of Hershey’s chocolate bar and not an extra large hunk.

   “i want more, momma.” (tears, tears and more tears)

   “You already have a lot and haven’t even started eating it.”

   “then, i don’t want annnnyyy!” (continue to sob)

really? i think as i look down at her little hands clutching 3 huge marshmallows and 1/4 of a large chocolate bar.  really? you don’t think this rare and excessive treat in normal mom-standards is enough?  you’d rather cry and throw a fit than just enjoy your favorite thing in the whole world?   i wouldn’t have had to give you any sweets, you ungrateful little girl.

and that’s when i heard it.  soft and gentle.  but, so Clear.

is not your heart also like this so often, child? 

oh yeah, this isn’t really about my daughter and her expected, normal, developmental urges for everything she doesn’t have.  this is about me and my sinful desires for MORE  in a world where God has already given me so much.

the bible says it best,

“Better one handful with tranquility
    than two handfuls with toil
    and chasing after the wind.”  (Ecclesiastes 4:6)

boom.  lesson remembered.  message received.

may we remember to be content in our now, in our means, and in our purpose and stop chasing after that impossible wind.

also, note to self:  stopping to taste the chocolate might be a better choice than crying about not having the whole bar.



  1. Wow. I’m not sure I would have tuned in to that lesson amidst the tears. Love it. I am learning that very thing right now as I prepare two bedrooms for a sibling set of girls that will be moving in soon. They come from so little and just when I almost began to apologize for not having a bigger house or a larger kitchen, they both began to express their excitement for how amazing all that we had to off them really was. It made me think about how ungrateful I am about some things in my life. My last blog post explains a bit more. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Love this Andi, I too face this it seems like daily with a 5 and 4 year old. Great reminder in the midst of this parenting.

  3. Wow. Just wow. God so knew what I needed to hear today; I struggle SO much with contentment, especially lately. Thank you for sharing your heart. <3

  4. Love it! I love how God uses motherhood to teach us the lessons He wants us to learn. Awesome, awesome.

  5. That is a great verse; and this whole post was something I really need to read right now. Thank you for writing it.

  6. Yes, yes and more yes!! I find myself with this need to want more, more than I’d like to admit. Such a great reminder! I want to pass this important lesson on to our girls. Do what I preach right :) Thanks for sharing sweet friend.

    Kristine from The Foley Fam {unedited} Blog

  7. Oh yes. I can so relate to this. I read a quote somewhere recently about how we sometimes judge God’s faithfulness by our own expectations. That cut me to the core because it’s so true.

    SO glad you shared this, Andi!

    • aww, thanks so much for including me in your favorites. such a topic of high priority for me right now. thanks for your encouragement.

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